AM I right?
February 8th, 2010 | by admin |I have been seeing this guy on and off for a couple of months. We took a break because he said he didn’t want to be serious with me because he’s moving and he slept with another girl. I slept with my ex because I felt regected-I know not a mature reaction. We got back together, but the fact that he told me he had wanted to sleep around is driving me me nuts. He said he is not sleeping around anymore, but now I can’t trust him. I know he talks to a lot of random girls online. I saw a comment on his myspace from another girl that I don’t know. It said happy humpday with a pix of a sexy girl. I asked him if he was sleeping with her. He says I’m too jealous and have no right to ask those questions, but I say I have every right to ask that question. Who is right?
And please don’t say I shouldn’t have slept with my ex because I already know that was a mistake.
ok so you were not serious with him in the beginning – he was honest enough to let you know the deal when he wanted to take a break… do you have any idea how many guys would
screw around behind your back & not even care. you obviously both made decisions that you’ll have to deal with now that you’re back together. define your relationship this time so it’s not an on & off thing. don’t spy on him & accuse him if you have no real proof… or you’ll end up pushing him to do the thing you’re accusing him of.
Tags: Amp Off, Decisions, Girls Online, Happy Humpday, Mistake, Myspace, Nuts, Proof, Random Girls, Relationship, Sexy Girl, Sleep, Spy
By Thomas K on Feb 8, 2010
Your expectations are too high.
You have every right to ask any question that you want to ask. He is not obligated to answer them.
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By carebear15lsw on Feb 8, 2010
i just went with dis guy just like him honey if he keep hurting you maybe your not in a good relationship leave
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By Fantastic Nay{Loves Jami} on Feb 8, 2010
its only right for you to worry about that. for gods sake hes your boy. and hes cheated before, so you’ll never know forsure if he’s gunna go back to his old ways or not.
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By superval13 on Feb 8, 2010
if youre going to be in a relationship with him, you have a right to know. if not, hes got a right to his privacy.
not that its any of my business, but he doesnt sound like much anyways. its like hes already got an untrustworthy record that will just give you problems in the future..
i say quit while youre ahead
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By sher on Feb 9, 2010
Neither of you sound ready for a steady relationship. You both slept with someone else. He may not trust you any more than you trust him. Once this has happened no-one ever truly trusts again. Can you live like this? If you like this guy then you have to just accept the fact that he may be disloyal again. If you cannot cope with that. Move on. You will only be in for heartbreak. Of course if living together you have a right to ask those questions. Sounds like both of you need to sow a few more wild oats before getting TOO serious in a relationship. Good luck!
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By Ree Ree on Feb 9, 2010
of course your rite to ask dat question, your his gurl friend…its not like he didnt sleep around before….dis dude is a trip…give him a bop on da head for me!
Ree
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By smallinvestorpower on Feb 9, 2010
It’s hard for people to change.
He is a cheaper now and will always be.
Break it up now or it will get harder.
Look for someone stable that will love you not everyone.
If you stay with him, you might get STD or worst AIDS.
He sleeps around with strangers that could have STD and transmit it to you.
You should go check it out with a doctor after you dump him.
It’s normal for guys to watch porn and sleep with girl friend or wife, but not other woman.
Trust yourself and start over.
What other proofs do you need?
Good Luck
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By NEICE32 on Feb 9, 2010
ok so you were not serious with him in the beginning – he was honest enough to let you know the deal when he wanted to take a break… do you have any idea how many guys would
screw around behind your back & not even care. you obviously both made decisions that you’ll have to deal with now that you’re back together. define your relationship this time so it’s not an on & off thing. don’t spy on him & accuse him if you have no real proof… or you’ll end up pushing him to do the thing you’re accusing him of.
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By Fai on Feb 9, 2010
If you are in a relationship again now, then yes, you do have the right to an explanation.
I congratulate you on the fact that you have the courage to admit you messed up and taking responsibility in your part of things, this shows you do have the maturity to have a long-term relationship, but maybe not with this particular man.
His accusation of your jealousy is a good excuse to put the focus onto you and excuse of his own behaviours ~ how would he feel to see something like that on your computer if it was from a hot guy?
It sounds like he wants his cake and to eat it too ~ playing the field, but have the comfort of a "convienent" girl too.
He is not ready for a mature relationship at all, if there is that sort of thing on his computer. Sorry, I think he is using you, maybe you are both using each other to fulfill needs, in your own ways?
It sounds like you both want very different things and are at two very different places in your lives even now, despite a seperation period to play around with other people.
Sometimes when things happen in life from certain decisions made, certain qualities of a relationship are broken, and they are then forever changed, they cannot ever be fixed again to be what they originally were. You can only move on from this point of what is happening now.
This is a sad thing that needs to be accepted when in a relationship and it is only on the part of both people being willing to come together and work together to maintain it, does the relationship have the ability to succeed again.
In some situations, it is better to consider to let go and part ways now than to carry this on, rather than trying to convince yourself otherwise knowing what you know and feeling how you feel now.
How much are you convinced that things will change with this guy? Waiting for people to change? You can end up waiting your life away submitting yourself to that painful illusion.
It’s not about blame, it is about being true to yourself and what you both want in life and maybe you can contemplate this and if you do really want something different to what this relationship is.
To stay in such a situation is somewhat demeaning to both of you, because you are preventing the possibility of meeting others who are more suitable for what you both want in relationship/s and both being very happy, only not together.
I think you know this already too.
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